Adultery has been a hot topic that people are always interested in, examining and wondering about why exactly would one cheat on their partner, what they get out of it, why ruin a good on-going relationship and more.
In many religions and cultures, adultery is not just unacceptable and considered to be a sin but even according to the legal systems of various countries, India included, a crime.
But I really do not understand how something like ‘adultery’ can even be considered a crime? A crime, as per my own knowledge is something that physically and psychologically harms another person.
Within crimes, you can include, robbery, rape, murder, attempt to murder, kidnapping and more such ones where the intent is especially malicious.
In regards to adultery, the intent is not as much malicious as its just being selfish or perhaps not really having a clear head at a certain point in your life.
And I could even say that altogether, adultery is not entirely wrong.
Now wait a second, and let me explain that while I do think on a moral and ethical ground adultery is not right, however, at the same time it is not entirely wrong either.
Affecting Only A Small Group Of People
With the way adultery is treated, especially by the legal system and society at large, it is placed along the same level as murder almost.
While in reality and frankly speaking adultery is truly not as big of a deal as it is made out to be. Adultery when committed only affects a small group of people at max and that too less in a physical way and more as an emotional hurt.
The only people affected are the partners themselves, their family if the couple is married, and the children.
Apart from this, society at large is not affected or harmed in any way if someone commits adultery.
Humans Are Not Monogamous
As per the popular book ‘The Myth of Monogamy’ by psychologist and zoologist David P. Barash and psychiatrist Judith Eve Lipton, monogamy can be divided into 2 categories, social monogamy which is basically sharing your life with one partner, raising and reproducing offsprings, and having sexual relations together. The other would be sexual monogamy which is more about only having 1 sexual partner at a time.
Now the authors say that while social monogamy is possible, for humans sexual monogamy is not entirely natural.
According to a research as per a post by HuffingtonPost, out of 5,000 mammals, only about 3 or 5% of them are truly monogamous to one mate for their entire lifetime.
And even among these rare species that included animals like wolves, foxes, beavers and such, it has been found that they occasionally do have flings or side relationships.
So scientifically speaking, monogamy is not natural and thus adultery is not only not wrong but something that is inevitable as per nature.
Hurting Themself Only
While we could say that adultery is morally wrong, however, there is truly not a way we could measure emotional hurt in any way.
Most of the times people comment on how the person committing adultery is hurting another person, but it could also be just them hurting themselves.
Because right or wrong, adultery is something that can never be hidden. It will come out and your partner will find out about it one time or another.
So although there might not be anything wrong per say with one committing adultery, you should keep in mind that the truth will come out and you must be ready to deal with the consequences of it.
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