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Let’s be real. You’ve either ghosted someone or have been ghosted at least once in your life so far however, if you haven’t or had either of these, congratulations on living under a rock! Ghosting, for me, has become a kind of art. I mean, Picasso had his weird blue period; I have my “Disappearing into the Void” phase. Same thing, right?
First off, let me clarify. Ghosting isn’t always a toxic “I-hate-your-guts” move. Sometimes, it’s just an “I-can’t-even” mood. And as an introvert, I “can’t even” quite often.
We meet, we vibe, everything’s cool. You message me, I message back. It’s a whole back-and-forth dance of words, emojis, and just enough punctuation. We’re practically besties, right? Wrong.
Here comes the tricky part. I’m an introvert. Talking to people drains my soul like a smartphone with a 1% battery without a charger in sight. So, I hesitate when I get that next ping—innocent, friendly, and completely non-threatening. The cursor blinks at me as if saying, “Answer them, coward!” But my brain? My brain says, “Nope. We’ve done enough socialising for the week. Time to vanish.”
Not all ghosting is toxic. Sometimes it’s self-care! I ghost people to recharge. It’s like putting my social battery in sleep mode. I don’t want to give half-baked responses when I’m low on energy. It’s better for everyone, trust me. Besides, wouldn’t you rather be ignored temporarily than be forced into a “K” or “LOL” conversation that’s drier than a biscuit dipped in chai for too long? Thought so.
In India, we have the perfect cultural cover for ghosting – “Sorry, yaar! Been busy with my family.” Boom. No one questions family drama. And don’t even get me started on the “work pressure” excuse. India practically runs on that.
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Honestly, is ghosting worse than small talk? I’m sparing both of us the excruciating pain of discussing what we had for dinner or what movie we’re pretending to care about on Netflix. I’m doing you a favour! And okay, maybe there’s a slight chance I get a bit overzealous with the ghosting. Fine. But isn’t everyone a little guilty of this in today’s world of over-communication?
Introverts are pros at ghosting, not because we don’t care, but because we care too much. We want the next conversation to be meaningful, not some half-hearted chat where we talk just for the sake of it.
So, the next time you don’t hear from me, don’t panic. I’m probably in “social hibernation,” recharging for the next big chat. Trust me, when I’m ready to return, I’ll come back with the enthusiasm of an auntie who spots a wedding buffet!
Until then, consider me your friendly neighbourhood ghost… who might just haunt your messages next week (or, um, the one after that).
Sources: Bloggers’ own opinion
This post is tagged under: Introvert, Thoughts, Silent Treatment, Social Burnout, Ghosting, Lazy, Conversations, Texting, Fatigue, Relatable, Indian, Millennials, Procrastination Nation, Online Etiquette, Mindful Communication, Healthy Boundaries, Why We Ghost, Sarcasm, Over Communication, Social Energy, dating, besties, family, workload
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