An accusation that often falls on the shoulders of millennials is that they suffer from Peter Pan syndrome– the refusal to grow up.
As a millennial myself, I can say that this is true to quite a large extent. We are the generation who believes in living in the moment, whether it comes to our life plans (or the lack of them), our careers, and even our relationships.
Many millennials are following the trend of postponing marriage for as long as possible.
From complaining to our friends about how our parents start talking about “finding a partner” once we finish college to joking about being members of the “shaadi nahi Karni Sena” online, we have internalised the need to stay single for as long as possible.
Why is this so?
I feel that the primary reason for this is because Indian millennials have stepped out of the restrictions that our parents followed to a large extent, in other words, we (well, most of us) have broken the “no dating” and “no relationship” rule.
We have had a few bad experiences along the way, and this has made us extremely wary. While we might not have given up on love, we still take a long time to commit even when we feel that we have finally found the right person, out of fear of getting hurt again.
As a generation, we have started pursuing alternate careers and lifestyles. Life is no longer about just getting a degree and then finding a 9-5 job that you work at till it’s time to retire. A job is not just about getting a monthly salary.
In this age of myriad career options and a large number of creative job opportunities (blogger, designer, fashion photographer, etc) that enable us to pursue our passions, many millennials get comfortable in pursuing the career of their choice, and feel that marriage would probably disrupt or change their schedule- something they would rather postpone or avoid.
We also live in an age where marriages break down and divorces are sought at the drop of a hat. This has given millennials the idea that somewhere, a marriage could potentially end in pain. In order to avoid (possibly) going through a divorce and experiencing the pain of a broken family, even more so if they have experienced it first hand from their parents.
As of 2016, 1.36 million people in India have obtained a divorce, and thrice that number of people are separated. These figures have doubled since thirty years ago, giving millennials all the more reason to be worried.
However, once you have found the right person, there are some advantages to marrying, and marrying young:
1. Indian society is still conservative to a large extent, and if you want to be able to go on holidays and stay with you will face less obstacles if you do so as a married couple, as there are many instances of unmarried couples being harassed when on vacation together.
2. You can enjoy the perks of married life for some years before having to think about having children.
3. When you do have children, you will be in the prime of your life, and in the best physical state to bring them up.
4. If you have children before the age of 28, there’s a good chance that you’ll get to spend precious years with your grandchildren (before you go senile) and maybe even great-grandchildren.
5. You are bound together sooner in life, and you always have a best friend by your side to face all the ups and downs offered by youth.
So there are perks to getting married early once you find the person you’re sure about, and it doesn’t mean that you’re “leaving the party early” by tying the knot in your twenties- the party is where your life partner is!
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